I’m on a quiet quest. To step out of my comfort zone and intentionally lean into the things that make me feel uneasy. Not for recognition. Not to become someone else. But to become more myself.

So, what is confidence?

For me, it’s not just about speaking louder or being bolder. It’s about presence. It’s how I enter a room, how I hold myself when someone says something I don’t agree with, how I respond when I am complimented, feel triggered or dismissed. Confidence, to me, is about showing up for myself, consistently, kindly, and in alignment with my values.

We all carry our own image of what confidence looks like. I’ve been working on mine for years and while I’ve grown, I still second-guess myself. I haven’t “arrived” at some final version of who I want to be. But that’s not the point. Growth isn’t a destination. It’s a practice.

If you’re thinking of starting your own confidence journey, whether it’s a week, a month, or 100 days, start by visualising who you want to become. Not just what they look like or how they sound, but how they carry themselves. What are their values? How do they react under pressure? What do they no longer apologise for? Write that version down. Refer to them often. You’re not far, you’re just waiting for you to believe in yourself first.

As I was gathering inspiration for my own 100 Days of Confidence Challenge, I realised something surprising:
I’m more confident than I give myself credit for.

Some of the things I saw on others’ lists already feel natural to me. But they might be terrifying to someone else. That’s when it clicked, my list has to be uniquely mine.

Some days, my confidence challenge might be subtle.

Like looking in the mirror and saying something kind to myself:

 “You are enough. You don’t need to perform to belong.”

Some days, it will be about social boundaries:

“Reinforce a boundary I’ve been letting slide and reflect on why it matters.”

Other days, it’ll push me out into the world:

 “Start a conversation with a stranger.”

Or invite me to reframe old patterns:

 “Visualise my most confident self and journal what she does differently.”

And then there will be the terrifying ones – the ones that make my heartbeat faster:

“Dance in public.”

Because life is too short to live on mute.
And I don’t want to spend mine worrying what strangers think.

This won’t be easy. Between a full work schedule, responsibilities, and the unpredictability of life, some days will feel heavy. But on others, confidence will sneak up in unexpected ways.
A moment of boldness. A peaceful “no.” A choice to trust myself.

Every act, big or small, will be a reminder:
I’m not waiting for confidence.
I’m building it, day by day, choice by choice.

Not for fame. Not for applause.
But for me. Because I want more and I know I can have it.
And maybe you can, too.

Want to join me?

Start by making a list of things in your life you could do more confidently  and pick one to try this week. You don’t have to be fearless. Just willing.

Don’t wait until you are confident to show up. Show up until you’re confident.