This week was about shifting the focus from self-consciousness to authentic presence.

Here are a few points that stuck out for me:

1. Over-focusing on yourself creates pressure.

When we’re always seeking validation, replaying how we look, or wondering what others think, we lose touch with the moment. It’s okay to care about how you present yourself, but don’t let it override your mind to the point that it prevents you from living freely.

2. Other people aren’t scrutinizing you as much as you think.

Most people are wrapped up in their own experiences, worries, and insecurities. Just like you. So take a minute, stop holding your breathe and let go of the small slip ups (that fumbled sentences, your dirty shoes) and stay present. Focus on connection rather than performance.

3. Feedback isn’t the full story.

Feedback can fuel you or help you grow, but it doesn’t define your worth. This week I was reminded of that when I received kind words from someone who felt inspired by me and I hadn’t even realised I was making an impact. Too often we’re so caught up in self-doubt that we forget we’re already touching lives, whether or not we hear about it.

Confidence isn’t about perfecting yourself for others. It’s about letting go of the constant self-focus and showing up authentically, knowing that not everyone is watching or judging you the way you imagine. And that even if people don’t always say it, that doesn’t mean they don’t value, appreciate, or think positively of you.

Just need to keep on showing up every day.