“I’m sorry, you dropped your bag.”
“I’m sorry, can you repeat that?”
“I’m sorry, could you move out of the way?”

I used to think I was just being polite.
But lately, I’ve started noticing just how often I say “sorry” not because I’ve hurt someone, but because I’ve existed in their way.

I’m a chronic apologizer. For years, I’ve used “sorry” in place of “excuse me” or “pardon” or “hey, I think you dropped something.” It sounds small, but each misplaced apology chips away at something bigger: my confidence, my presence, my sense of deserving space.

So, starting today (with some relapses here and there) I’m choosing to stop saying sorry when I haven’t done anything wrong.
Instead of shrinking myself, I’m learning to speak clearly, kindly, and confidently.

Because this shift in language is more than semantics. It’s a symbol.
It’s me redefining how I allow others to perceive me, not as a meek woman who tiptoes through life, but as someone who believes she has the right to be here.

Taking up space, physically, emotionally, socially, can feel intimidating.
Sometimes it’s as simple as wearing a bolder outfit than you’re used to. Driving a brightly coloured car. Speaking up. Or even staying quiet when that’s what feels right.

I want to start taking up space – not to be loud or audacious – but to walk in the direction I choose, without circling the perimeter of the room because I’m afraid of being seen.
The irony? People are watching. But not always in the way we fear.
And even if they are, so what?

Imagine walking up to an empty treadmill in the gym, only to find it’s out of order. Instead of shrinking in embarrassment, you simply turn around and choose another one.
That’s the energy I want to embody.

It’s time to act like no one is watching and to understand that even if they are, their gaze doesn’t define your worth.

You can be unsure and still be secure in yourself.
You can be visible without needing to explain why.
You can take up space with quiet confidence and strong presence.

And if you’re reading this thinking, “Oof, I do that too,”. This is your reminder:
The way we speak and act teaches others how to treat us.

Maybe you’re doing something that diminishes your own standing, whether it’s apologizing too often, softening your voice to seem less assertive, second-guessing your instincts or your right to speak.

Pay attention.
You are allowed to ask.
You are allowed to talk up space.
You are allowed to exist.

No apologies needed.