Negative emotions and feelings are, whether you like it or not, a part of being human. A part of everyday life.
The thing is that we all know this, feel it and experience it but not that many of us actually do something about it.
We give up or give in to the internal negativity and allow ourselves to wallow in the belief that there’s nothing we can do about it or to feel better.
But there is.
This might be an over simplification, but in order to get new positive feelings and energy back into your mind you need to make space for it first.
If your head is full of doubt, negative thoughts, insecurities, jealousy, regret, uncertainty, sadness or anxiety it’s going to be very difficult to put something more positive in there. There is no space and you’re just not open to it.
In order to ‘make space’ in your mind, there are three things you can do.
- Journal
- Meditate
- Talk
Sorry, there really is no larger, secret answer to this and yes, those three things actually work.
Journaling allows you to write things down which, apart from helping you to make some space in your head, makes things very real for yourself which can help you gain new insight into a specific emotion.
Meditation, when done correctly, is a great way to take the leash off your mind and allow it to run around for a while. Then, as you get more into it, you can learn to call it back and take more control over it. I’ll be writing a little more about mindfulness in future newsletters but, and I speak from experience, it’s a great way to manage negative emotions and feelings.
Talk. You need to talk to someone. Saying things out-loud makes you think, and feel, very differently about it. Talk to a friend, a family member, a therapist or a life coach. But you need to talk.
You can go and check out this journal entry I did a while ago about talking to someone and why it’s so important.
I have apps for journaling and meditation that I use on a daily basis and it works even though I always thought things like that is just for ‘other’ people. Let me know if you’d like for me to send you the apps so that you can try them out.
Oh, and for the guys out there, you need to start looking at some of these things if you’re struggling. Build a bridge and get over the stupid, insecure and self-damaging thoughts that you won’t be a ‘real’ man if you meditate or journal or talk about your feelings.
There’s unfortunately too many guys who are still stuck in this way of thinking and they’re leaving life, happiness and so much more on the table.
Put your big boy pants on and get involved. That’s the real alpha male thing to do!
If you’d like to bounce some thoughts, talk about journaling or meditation or you’d like to just talk, please let me know.
I’d love to help you find the thing that will work for you. 🙏🏼
