We rush to solve everything. To patch the feeling. To quiet the discomfort. To find a fix before we understand the fracture.

But life isn’t that simple.

What’s genuinely maddening is watching people surrender to situations they could change while frantically trying to change situations they can only accept.

Your body? Almost always fixable. The person claiming they “can’t lose weight” while downing soda and skipping walks. The one insisting their energy levels are “just genetics” while sleeping five hours and living on processed food. The “my body just doesn’t build muscle” excuse from someone who’s never followed a program for more than two weeks.

Your mindset? Massively changeable. The anxiety that “just happens to you” that you’ve never addressed with therapy, breathwork, or consistent practice. The negative thought patterns you label as “just how I am” rather than neural pathways that can be rewired with effort.

Stop hiding behind the fiction that you’re helpless. The body you inhabit and the mind you operate from are the two domains where you have the most direct control. Not perfect control. Not immediate transformation. But substantial, meaningful influence through consistent action.

But grief? That’s weather you ride through.

Uncertainty? That’s terrain you cross.

Growth pains? That’s fire you walk through.

These aren’t problems to be solved. They’re experiences to be faced. No amount of optimization, biohacking, or self-improvement strategies will eliminate them.

The mistake is applying fixing strategies to facing problems. Trying to “solve” grief. Trying to “hack” uncertainty. Trying to “overcome” the necessary discomfort of transformation.

Or worse – using facing strategies for fixing problems. “Accepting” poor health that could be changed. “Surrendering” to thought patterns that could be rewired. “Making peace” with situations you have the power to transform.

True strength isn’t found in avoiding discomfort. It’s built by staying in it long enough to feel what’s true.

Not running when uncertainty arises. Not distracting when grief surfaces. Not denying when fear appears.

Just squaring up and letting the moment pass through you.

That’s what steadies you for whatever comes next.

Not the fixing. The facing.

Stay safe.
And don’t forget to be awesome.