During the last few months I have confirmed something for myself that I’ve know for a long time.
Talking works.
Let me say that again.
Talking works.
Let’s get real here.
If you have an issue with someone, you’re unhappy about something, you don’t like the way things in your life is going… you have no fucking right to complain if you do not talk about!
So many people end up miserable and upset because they do not talk about how they feel.
And what happens then?
All the negative thoughts and uncertainties and insecurities and fears and anxieties and and tension and stress and all the other bullshit that we as humans tend to have in our minds; all of these things percolates inside your head and slowly fucks you up from the inside.
You start believing things that, in the real world, is totally not what the reality actually is.
You start to doubt yourself and the the things you can and want to do.
You convince yourself that you actually deserve to be unhappy and that no one can help you.
Goals becomes things that other people can reach. Not you.
Happiness becomes something that you can only imagine if everything in your life was different.
You need to talk.
Most of us are not used to being alone with our thoughts and often things just festers to the point where you are crippled by negative emotions, shitty thoughts and a headspace that will only make you feel even worse than when you started.
You need to talk.
During the last two weeks I have seen firsthand how, during even just a 30 minute conversation, talking can leave a person lighter, happier, more focused, more positive and overall just better.
And you know what, you don’t even have to go deep or intense. A simple, honest conversation is all we need to let off the mental pressure that builds and that we allow to mess up so badly from the inside.
Talking works.
And no, having a rant on social media doesn’t work. All that does is makes you feel even worse about everything because you will find people who just fire you up more and you end up in a ‘misery loves company’ situation. And other people won’t want to listen to your bitching and moaning because negativity just sucks.
So if you take anything from this newsletter… you need to talk!
Do not sit on stuff that you need to.
Let it out.
Get rid of it.
Talk to someone.
Move on.
And to any of the guys out there who might read this. Don’t be a dick and think it makes you soft to talk to someone. Don’t get caught up in the trap of toxic masculinity which still, and this just plain pisses me off, stigmatises and limits the emotional freedom that we as men should have.
And you know what, talking to someone will not only make you feel better and make a difference to your own headspace, it will also make a difference to the people closest to you.
And maybe that in itself is worth talking.
I have been doing a lot of discovery sessions with potential clients and even that 30 minutes conversation has made a difference.
Sometimes that’s all it takes.
So if you’d like to have someone to just listen while you talk, I’d be happy to be that person for you.
One last time…
You need to talk.
It will always be worth it!
G.
